Courtship In Marriage

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Marriage! Your life is getting transformed into another world. The days prior to marriage will be filled with anticipation, pleasurable excitement and many dreams. For those couples whose love is turning into a legal bond there will be a blissful feeling. However for the prospective couple in arranged marriages the premarital days will be filled with many doubts. Here comes the major need for courtship.

Courtship period is the time when the would be couple get a chance to be with each other prior to their marriage. Those in arranged marriages must have overcome their initial tensions of bride viewing during these meetings. The courtship period may initiate with the formal meetings arranged by friends or relatives moving on to the couple plan to take their own private times.

Courtship plays an important role in the marital life that has to be followed. In an arranged marriage, the boy and the girl get a first chance to know each other during this period. They may develop their relationship from that of strangers to companionship during this period. At the same time they will get time to dicuss the manners, likes or dislikes, family, friends and future life during this time. The so far used 'I' will slowly get shifted to 'We' during this time.

The initial confusion during the courtship period is how to call the partner for a first date. Many prospective couple hesitate to take the initiation thinking that their partner or family may have misconceptions regarding the invitation. It is better to consider that the marital life will not be same as your love life. If a guy has called you for a date during your teenage days; this may not happen in a marital relationship. The calls for meetings can happen from both sides.

As you set out for a courtship with your fiancee or spouse, you may have a list of "Do not"s than "Do"s. There are some essential factors that you have to do in the courtship period. As a first factor, dress elegantly without showing much of your skin. You have to tell your negative and positive characters to the other person. You can ask him/her the personal likes and dislikes and express yours to your fiancee/spouse. You can even plan or arrange the future house, introduce friends or relatives and go for a pre marital counselling during this time.

Now, comes the golden "Do not"s in a courtship period. Never open up your mind until you understand the partner. You should not hesitate to think over the relationship if you get any negative signals from your partner. You do not have to confess the past crushes to the prospective partner as it may lead to jealousy in marriage. At the same time never try to dig into your partner's past relationships; since you have much time to build up trust to each other after marriage. Above all these never indulge in any kind of physical relationship during the courtship period. This has to be waited till you get the legal and social approval on your wedding night.

Build up your emotional bond and keep the physical attraction lively during the courtship period. Get ready for a wonderful marriage and a passionate marital life after this courtship period.