Marriage After Divorce

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Marriage is a sacred institution that unites two hearts and is found in every culture. We often say that someone somewhere is made for you and on the day of marriage you feel that he or she is the one you had been waiting for all your life. After days of entering into marriage, it may be quite shocking to find out that due to lack of understanding, mental compatibility, et al, your partner and you are moving apart. Then your much-awaited life collapses like a pack of cards and may sometimes lead to divorce.
Many divorcees believe that they are doomed to a single, loveless life. To make situations worse, some of them might experience constant threats and emotional blackmails from their ex-partners. Moreover, society might pry on them, seeking reasons for divorce, new relationships after divorce and hints of extra marital affairs. In this situation most divorcees may consider the idea of a remarriage, weird.

Remarriage embalms the love between two hearts that has been thrown out of the institution of marriage. There are also instances where one partner has been a divorcee and the other unmarried. However, shadows of the past will fail to haunt as long as remarriage is well planned and thought of.

The first and foremost factor that must be considered in remarriage is the children from the previous marriage. Even if the concerned person is not the custodial parent of the child and whatever their age, children must be informed about the remarriage of their parent. The would-be stepparent must establish a healthy relationship with the children for a successful remarried life. The prospective partners should express their concerns if any about each other's relationship with their ex, relationship with ex in-laws, or their family's relationship with the ex and so on. The prospective partners must voice their thoughts about their new partner making child support payments or spousal support payments, (alimony). Even if the ex-partners threaten or blackmail the couple, the current couple must be able to give each other emotional support. If all these aspects work well for you, you can ring the bells of remarriage.

You must announce your remarriage first to your parents followed by your ex. You can ask your parents to announce your remarriage to the guests. Avoid inviting your former in-laws and ex-spouse even if you are in good terms with them. They may become melancholy, and some guests may feel awkward around them. A religious ceremony is more appropriate to conduct your second marriage followed by a legal wedlock. You should not cut short the ceremony you long for, only because this is your second marriage. You can personalize your remarriage with a large formal wedding with attendants, announcement in paper, bridal showers, selected costumes and splendid dinners. You must include your children in the ceremonies and can even ask them to be by your side.

You can avoid certain situations that may remind you of your past. Never duplicate your first marriage as it is bound to bring painful memories on your auspicious day. It is always advisable not to remarry in the same place where you first got married. You don't have to wear the costumes of your first wedding to commence a new life. You must be extremely cautious to remove the rings-engagement ring, wedding ring and sufferings- of your former relationship, on your day of remarriage. Do not discuss or berate your ex-spouse on the day of your remarriage, since you have already left the wrong choice behind.

A remarriage assures you, that you are not excluded from love that is the essence of life. You may look back and wonder, that your divorce which was supposed to be the end of your marriage, was actually the beginning of a more meaningful life, a true marriage in the real sense.

Divorce is not the end of life....life has to move on and it will.